Marriage Philosophy

Maybe I am just a little disenchanted by the whole marriage thing, but I am currently in my second marriage and I am watching it go the way of the first, which is directly down the tubes. 

Even when I was young, I always had this idea of what marriage was and maybe that is the problem. Maybe my expectations are just too high and I should just be happy to co-exist with my spouse in the same house for the rest of my life? That is what my friends are doing and most of them are sleeping around. So, what is my idea of the perfect marriage?

I think marriage is a partnership of two people that love each other and are:

1. Soulmates.

2. Attracted to each other.

3. Look forward to seeing each other.

4. Have the utmost respect for each other and show it to each other.

5. Compliment and support each other in every facet of their lives.

6. Provide companionship for each other.

7. Are willing to to do anything with their mate, regardless of whether it is something that they want to do or may not like doing it, but want to do it because it is with their spouse.

8. Take care of each other.

9. Strive for equality. Everything is 50/50. Cooking, cleaning, working, taking care of the kids, etc.

10. Have the same basic principles and beliefs.

11. Wouldn't say a bad thing about or to each other .

This partnership can collectively achieve anything in life because they are always pulling in the same direction.

Is it possible to be "in love" with someone for the rest of your life? I think that is what I am looking for and I have told this to several of my friends and they laugh and say that takes too much energy. I think that I am just a hopeless romantic.

I am really disenchanted with the whole dating scene as well and the possibility of finding the right person. I believe that they exist for everyone, but what is the chance that you are going to find them in a bar, at the grocery or at your church? Not only do you have to find the right person but they have to also be single and have to be attracted to YOU. I think that most marriages are the result of two people that are attracted to each other, often have very little in common and decide that they can change the other or tolerate the little quirks that drive the other one batty.

I am not much of a loner, so the whole idea of going through another divorce doesn't excite me and if it just leads to a thrid miserable marriage, why not just stay where I am? Food for thought, I am open to suggestions and thoughts.

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